Fat Fridays: Skincare and Weight loss – 04.12.2020

Before

I had no interest in skincare before, I mean I just wanted to know what I would be elating for breakfast/lunch/dinner/snacks.

My skin was breaking out in spots, unsightly pimples and through constant popping meant a plethora of scars. While I never like seeing and feeling them on my face, I did nothing to get rid of them.

I wasn’t a fan of looking into mirrors as I was disgusted with the way I looked, so naturally, skincare wasn’t at the forefront of my mind. Food was.

Currently

During the summer I purchased some products from a vegan skincare range. I had been using it for a while and noticed slight changes. Positives. Although, I found that after a few months of use, the effects didn’t last. I’m not sure if that was down to the products or a dip in the food I was eating?

Lately, I’ve felt the effects of the weather changes on my skin, the cold weather drying out the last drop of moisture on my face. So I sought to look into skincare and see what I could do to improve on the health of my skin.

  • I wipe my face gently with Nivia Micellar Air water – wiping away remnants of the world around me.
  • I use L’Oréal Sugar Scrub for my face, at least twice a week.

I lather L’Oréal Pure Clay Detox Mask on my face once a week.

I massage L’Oréal Hydra Genius Hyaluronic Acid & Aloe Liquid Hydrating Moisturiser over my face every morning/evening.

I wake up/go to sleep feeling pampered. My skin feels supple and my confidence grows each day.

Forward

The way forward is to listen to my skin and nourish it, with what it needs to glow.

Head to toe.

Love

Unique Fatso

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Fat Fridays: Super-power 27.11.2020

Before

For many years I avoided photos!

I’ve always felt that I was too fat, too unattractive and too unworthy to have a photo taken. And whenever I saw myself in random photos, I used to feel disgusted. ‘Like, look at you! UGLY!’

When I started buying my clothes, I always opted for dark shades, baggy fit and of course something mundane. After all, I never felt I was good enough to wear anything pretty.

I never felt I was beautiful enough to show any skin.

I never felt I was confident enough to wear red!

I was simply existing behind the shadows of the camera flash.

I had decided to make excuses to be absent from events – birthday parties, weddings and even funerals. There was this deep feeling inside me, that I did not deserve to be there. I was greedy and fat! *Only models can have super-powers

This Year!

It’s 2020!

A few weeks ago, I put on two shades of lipstick by Mac – Ruby Woo and Russian Red. I pouted just as the camera counted down from 3…2…1 before taking this shot!

Lip pout – SNAP.

Unique Fatso

Here I am.

I feel most confident wearing red-lipstick!

I can’t describe it but I feel super!

I’m a few stones off of my goal weight, my stomach jiggles when I’m running and cellulite is present on my thighs. But hey! I’m wearing red lipstick and I feel wonderful.

I don’t work out every day, I’m a sucker for a bag of chips and curry sauce. Feeling guilty after consumption. Only this shade is so complimentary and I LOVE IT!

I love who I was.

I love who I am.

I love who I’m becoming.

2020 has been a year of growth, deep transformative personal growth. I’ve listened to my body and honoured the wishes of my heart.

I am Unique Fatso!

Take time to discover what your super-powers are? Embrace your mind, body and soul.

You are a key member of our universe.

Snacks

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It’s hard to decide on what to snack on let alone what the best portion is? I find snacks challenging, as I shop weekly, to ensure that I have fresh fruits and vegetables in, for the random meals I prepare. But I don’t like to buy too much of something, through fear of wasting it.

When it comes to snacks, I must admit, I find it difficult. Advice out there says to plan! But some days I wake up and I don’t fancy eating something I may have considered a banana beforehand, only to change my mind.

I love food and I like to have a few options. Which leads me to these delicious green plantain chips by Grace. I had originally purchased the sweet packs a few months ago. However, a pregnant family member munched them all to herself. LOL.

Last week, I purchased a single pack of salted plantain chips and today was the first time I fancied snacking on them. They are delicious! And in addition to their lovely taste, they are gluten-free and high in fibre.

Snacks? What’s the best snack you can choose to help you to lose weight and not feel guilty? Well, I can’t answer for everyone – remember we are all unique. For instance, my body loves avocado when I’m menstruating. Homemade brownies are beautiful, but that does not equate to a slimmer waistline.

My advice on snacking would be to have a variety of snacks so you don’t become bored. But also to remember to drink water first. You have no way of knowing if your hungry pain is hunger or thirst. So drink water, wait around 5 minutes and then snack.

I don’t snack daily; I’ve increased my water intake – which leads to more frequent trips to the loo. I find that I snack during menstruation and as much as I crave a warm, moist, chocolate-brownie, served with vanilla ice-cream. I push myself to devour a glass of water and a banana or load up on a plant-based smoothie.

Top Tips for Effective Snacking?

  • Try a few things and note down how you feel and what you like the most, etc.
  • If you prefer to buy snacks from the super-market, always read the labels! Not only for its nutritional content but for the ingredients.
  • Don’t be afraid to bake your own – brownies, flapjacks, protein bites etc. *With homemade, you know exactly what is inside.
  • If you look at a snack and think it is too small, don’t double up. Have that portion and distract yourself from the extra temptation.
  • I don’t believe chocolate bars fit into the category of healthy snacks. However, if you feel you need chocolate, I recommend dark chocolate, my favourite is mint flavoured or salted caramel.

Remember!

  • You are in control of your food consumption.
  • Be kind to your body and snack wisely.
  • Know that you are capable of healthy snacking.

Love

Unique Fatso

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Grace Sweet Plantain Chips

Grace Salted Plantain Chips

A Plant Based Smoothie: Marvellous Mango by Unique Fatso

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WTF: I Ate Too Much

‘Oh, my word! I’ve overeaten every night the past few days.’ – A Human

‘I’ve gained so much weight! I’ve been so stressed out lately and I needed those comforts.’ – A Human

‘Yeah, I’ve had a lot of takeaways recently. But I’m bored indoors and well, food tastes good.’ – A Human

What the fuck! Whispered your inner thoughts as you took another bite from an unhealthy plate of food.

What the fuck! Was the afterthought of guilt that brought you down to your knees, wishing you never ate as much as you did.

What the fuck! What the thought process you had on the assumption that you’ve done a bad thing.

What the fuck! Was how you believed your family and friends would react to your recent admittance of a period of excessive eating.

In reality, you’re human your behaviour was the same as many humans around you. I have also experienced moments where I’ve eaten too much and I’m fully aware that it will be detrimental to my progression.

I too have heard those negative thoughts and spoken negatively about myself. As a way of punishing myself for doing wrong?

I too have assumed that my family and friends would judge me harshly, for taking action in the form of gluttony!

I too have had negative thoughts, telling myself that ‘I’m not meant to lose weight! I can’t do this.’

However, the reality for all of us on a journey of losing weight, is that no one is perfect!

If you need to sulk about your poor food choices, allow yourself 30 minutes to release all that pent up emotion. I prefer a nice long power-walk. However, you may like to write, sing loudly, or just sit back and take stock for a moment.

Don’t stay in that zone!

  • Acknowledge
  • Accept
  • Move on

You’re not a robot. You weren’t programmed to avoid all things considered ‘bad’ in life.

Get back to your health journey right away, don’t wait for tomorrow! Start right now and love yourself enough to know that you can do this.

Remind yourself of the following and please, do say this aloud:

  • I am beautiful.
  • I am strong.
  • I am loved.
  • I am healthy.
  • I am unique.

Speak your goals into existence and thrive off the moment you achieve a milestone!

Our lives aren’t promised on Earth! Enjoy each moment and feel every heartbeat.

What the fuck! I know you’re awesome and you will exceed your expectations.

Love

Unique Fatso

Fat Fridays: Stress and Acknowledgements – 20.11.2020

20.11.2020

This week has been a challenging week and I can’t lie, I’ve been dealing with a lot of things, Positive Mindset: Family Loss, Food Intake & a Faulty Friendship

Yesterday, I visited one of my household bubbles! *For those of you who aren’t aware, the UK is now in another lockdown. One which is due to last until the 2nd of December 2020. However, that is debatable, and many people believe lockdown 2.0 will be extended?

Apologies, I digress.

I visited my household bubble and spent quality time with my family. It was just what I needed.

I went to bed last night giggling, as I had experienced such a wonderful evening and felt genuine happiness and peace of mind. I woke up this morning feeling somewhat renewed, like my time with family served as a reminder that ‘for every dark night there’s a brighter day.’ – Tupac Shakur

Losing weight isn’t easy and there will be times where like myself you go through a great deal of stress. Emotions that you weren’t prepared for. I miss my Grandad immensely and a loss of any kind will have an impact even on the strongest minds in our universe.

It’s okay to feel down sometimes.

It’s okay to cry.

It’s okay to express yourself through writing, painting, going for a run or having a conversation with someone you trust.

It’s okay to spend some time unwinding, burning incense, having a hot bubble bath, meditating with some crystals and having a cup of herbal tea.

While the above is where I would urge one to go, during times of emotional challenges. I’m aware some people may turn towards the wrong things such as; alcohol, drugs self-harm or something else that is detrimental to their health and wellbeing.

Please try your best to avoid turning to bad elements in life, that do more harm and no good!

Please check out https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/mental-health-helplines/

The NHS has a list of charities and organisations that offer support for anyone that needs it.

This morning I went out for a walk, it was cold outside, and my hands were freezing. (Which earlier on this week, I would have talked myself into not going.) However, today I went for a walk, which was just under 3 hours long.

It felt great to feel the cold air glide over my face and through my braids. Listen to the sounds of the outside world and to take a moment to relax and weed out some of the negative feelings I’ve been having.

It felt wonderful to have time to think about areas in my life that have heightened my emotions. It was good to have a better understanding and clarity as to why some things in life happen and how to deal with them better.

This week has been very challenging for me and admittedly on Monday, it felt like I was being swallowed by the world. However, today I’m feeling much better and I’m grateful for my loved ones, who are always supportive, no matter what!

I’ve written this to remind everyone that it’s okay to seek help and support for your mental health. There’s no shame and you should be proud of yourself. I mean, you’ve identified how you’re feeling and you’ve reached out for help.

I want you to know:

  • You are strong.
  • You are wise.
  • You are amazing!
  • You are loved.
  • You are valued.
  • You are needed.
  • You are important.
  • There is only one version of you in existence, in our entire universe.

‘If you fall, stand tall and come back for more!’ – Tupac Shakur

You’re not alone in this world.

Love

Unique Fatso

Positive Mindset: Family Loss, Food Intake & a Faulty Friendship

On the 6th of November 2020, my Grandad passed away.

He had existing medical conditions, however, it was COVID19 that ended his life.

Since then, I went through around 7 days of good eating and cooking etc. However, last night I ate a huge slice of homemade banana cake. I knowingly sliced 1.5-inch thick piece of cake, thinking what I’m about to do with it is wrong. I knew at the time eating such a large slice of cake would be detrimental to my journey, but I did it anyway.

This morning my sister shared photos of the nine nights event, that some Christian families do, to honour the dead. Seeing those photos bought on so many tears and it led me to miss someone I once held in high regard – I then made the mistake of reaching out to them. And regretted it immediately, tried to delete the WhatsApp messages but they responded. *Please note: This person pleaded to remain, friends, after they treated me like shit and stomped all over my time.

Despite my best attempts in both avoiding the conversation and then answering questions that had obvious answers, I ended up explaining to them what I expected from a ‘friendship,’ and what I received. Which was what they are fully aware of. I explained that I was reflecting this morning and missed memories of the good times…they then replied something along the lines of ‘How can you miss me when I’ve not been present?’

This person knows I’m mourning the loss of my favourite Grandparent.

At that point, I scrolled back through our conversation and realised that while I’m by no means the definition of perfection, I never lie to myself or others.

I was always there for them when they needed a shoulder to cry on and I mean both figuratively and literally. I never ask for anything from anyone or expect the world and its many oysters. However, I stupidly expected this person to have some integrity! For the duration of that conversation of which I did not wish to have.

After extensive elaboration on the fact, I was reminiscing over the good times we once shared.

‘How can you miss me, when I’ve not been present?’

It was at the receipt of that message that my brain rebooted and reminded me of:

  1. My self-worth.
  2. The value I bring to all those around me.
  3. The asset of time and creation.
  4. My knowledge – both in print and in my heart.
  5. The fact that chickpeas are grown in more than one location.
  6. 7 billion + people are roaming right around me.
  7. That thought was temporary.

But who am I to define my self-worth in the text?
• I’m Unique.
• I don’t need any form of social-media to define my existence.
• I don’t yearn for validation in internet formation.
• I’ve never asked of anything from a friend, apart from their honesty. An honest friendship is far greater than a paid relationship.

I admit I slipped up this morning and I’ve since promised myself, I won’t make the same mistake twice. I’ve lost almost 2stones, my skin is looking healthier, I’m mentally stronger than I’ve ever been, I’ve developed so much since 2020 started. All without this ‘friendship.’

It was a pinch to acknowledge it died with that version of myself. However, in life, I’ve learnt to make sacrifices and adapt to walk tall along the pathways that have opened up and welcomed me.

Yes, I’ve lost my Grandad and realised today that I lost a friendship, that theoretically was gone last year. I kindly awarded that person the opportunity to right a wrong they created. But instead, they blamed 99.9% of their shady behaviour on me.

(I must remind all readers I’ve spent many hours helping this person when they were at their lowest.)

‘How can you miss me, when I’ve not been present?’

I’ll highlight what happened a few months ago, they reached out and apologised for how much they hurt me. They then reiterated their want to remain friends and keep our connection going…

Who am I to define my worth? I’m a woman that will no longer devalue herself for the confidence of a weak person. *No matter how much sugar you sprinkle, you’ll never be sweet enough to tempt me back with a false declaration of any kind.

‘How can you miss me, when I’ve not been present?’

Great question! I’ll repeat myself, I missed you immensely this morning. As I woke up reminiscing over the good times we shared when you were a real friend. A friendship I was proud to have and cherished with my heart.

Today I waited until 1520 to eat something, I couldn’t focus on anything else but my memories of my Grandad and your ignorant messages. All of which have been erased.

It took me less than 24hrs to accept the fact that in this reality, I’m worth more than you’ll ever accept. It will always be rejected by you until that second arrives where you’re feeling like this! Or similar, maybe worse. No one stays on a high forever, my friend.

Clarity?
Mourning the loss of a loved one has my mind speeding around like Sonic the Hedgehog searching for Dr Egg-man. I’m hurting right now and my healthy meals today have been a shambles. A source I turned to for comfort? Was the worst decision I’ve made this year!

However, I left that conversation with a positive mindset. If someone could be so indignant to the fact that they’re the ones that trash everything they touch. Then who am I to stop them? My life is far more nourishing without a selfless person buzzing through then they need my support.

I’ve benefitted from having the sense to walk away, fool me once? shame on you, fool me twice? A lesson learned on my part.

From earlier…
Well, not much to say now. I’ve practised reflective writing online and shared with anyone reading this, how I felt today of all days and how my stupid actions led to some key changes! Especially concerning that person.

From dinner time…
I’ll revert to my healthy eating and move on from my moment of weakness from the delicious homemade banana cake.

From tomorrow…
Well, who knows what the future holds?

I do know that I’ll continue to grow and be even more amazing than ever.

I also know that some of this waffling makes sense to someone else, including my future self.

Take away?

I want anyone reading this to take away the facts:
• It’s perfectly fine to be upset!
• We all eat the wrong foods from time to time, acknowledge, accept and continue forward!
• When someone dies it can mess up everything you had in check! Accept it and work on repairing it. Stay strong and focused.
• Sometimes friendships come to an end. These ends can be timely like a few people I no longer see from uni – life gets in the way and you sometimes drift. Or abruptly, where your fraudulent friendship (that the other person requested) hits a wall made of solid shit and knocks some real sense into your blurry thought process.
• It’s perfectly fine and I implore anyone and everyone to vent! Preferably by way of pen and paper or blog post. There is no benefit to your mental health, holding onto anything that causes you pain and upset! Get it out and trust me, you’ll feel like an upgrade of your former self, once you do.

Finally!
Thank you for allowing me to vent here! For reading my authentic and partially nonsensical ramble about my inner world.

I appreciate this safe space to correspond, vocalise my feelings and learn from events such as today.

If ever I felt I had banged my head this morning and woke up in a mountain of confusion. I’m now sitting comfortably in my home, listening to the mellow sounds of lo-fi beats and remembering who the fuck I am.

Love

Unique Fatso

Ps: ‘Abundance is my birth right.’ – Unique 2020

Things

Things I wish I had known back then – Unique Fatso

Frequently, many people reflecting on their weight loss journey, feel that they often felt alone at times. And how they wish they knew a few things at the start of their journey to better health.

It’s extremely interesting as we live in a world of information, yet a lot of what we find is misplaced or simply outdated!

Throughout my journey, I’ve found that the times I shared I was trying to lose weight, everyone became an expert in the world of weight loss. Even to this very date and after implementing many healthy changes, a friend of mine had the audacity to state, ‘Unique, you should be eating liver! That’s got loads of iron in it. I don’t know why you just won’t eat meat.’

*Coming from someone who spends around £80 per week on takeaway services and claims that fruits and vegetables make them sick. While constantly taking different forms of medication for things such as blood pressure and indigestion.

I feel people become self-identifying experts, just so that they can take some credit or feel some sense of achievement when their friend loses weight.

I feel it’s important to highlight support networks you should consider to assist you during your weight loss journey:

ParkRun: I joined ParkRun, which is a local running group that run 5KM every week! You’re never last as one of the volunteers will always walk at the very end of the group. You can run, jog, walk, mix it up or even attend with your dog or young child in a push-chair.

Why do I like this group?

Everyone is welcoming and friendly, old and young! Wonderful atmosphere and for the first time in a long time, I wasn’t focused on the jiggly parts of my body. I power-walked my first one and it took me over an hour to complete the course. I felt amazing! That was a great accomplishment and I recommend that if you have ParkRun in your local area, to get signed up. IT’S FREE TO JOIN AND PARTICIPATE.

They also time you and e-mail your results a few hours after the run has finished.

I’ve met some amazing people both running alongside me or volunteering to support the free event. Those volunteers make everything possible. You can also volunteer too! I appreciate their words of encouragement when I’m lagging and feeling like I can’t complete the run. A smiling face with positive words come at me and I push forward until the end.

Bookstores: I try not to buy books that everyone is going on about, as a lot of the times they’re very commercialised and highlighting every few pages for the reader to visit the author’s website to purchase exclusive content etc.

I’m not saying that these books aren’t useful. My preference is with more educational books, where I find that not only does it help me to lose weight, but I learn more about foods and the benefits and how to equip myself to become a better version of myself.

Reflective Writing

Reflective writing is a powerful tool to help you on your journey towards better health. It helps you to be honest and open, as you’re not having a conversation, you’re simply writing in a private notebook and reading it later.

At first, this was a weird concept for me. I wondered why I would what to write about things and read it back, reminding myself how I scoffed an extra burger or ate too much food at Christmas time and the years that followed. Reading my own words and understanding how I felt and what trigger feelings of that nature, enabled me to accept my poor eating habits.

Accept the fact that back then I overate and due to writing reflectively, I identified some emotional scars from events/people at a dark time in my life.

At first glance, this ‘thing’ seems basic and ineffective. But I ask you to try it for at least 21 days and evaluate how you feel afterwards. All you need is a nice notebook and a pen.

Hope these ‘things’ help you to become a healthier version of yourself.

Love

Unique Fatso