From time to time, I reflect upon where I am at this moment in my life. Since I started my journey in 2019, I have evolved a lot in this space of time. It all started with my decision to stop eating animal meat.
Today, I find myself spending more time selecting fresh fruits, vegetables and pulses. As opposed to the long durations I used to spend trying to match a deal on beef burgers, pizzas and fish fingers. Those rotten Mix n Match deals roping me in to spend endless pounds on pieces of a life that once had eyes and blinked.
The evolution of Unique did not stop there, and I’m consistently reading, learning more and implementing some choices into my daily living. I’m proud of my growth on my journey and from deep within my soul. Five years ago, I would never have thought that I could live without consuming meat. Today, I devour roasted chickpeas and sing to the society I reside in about how excellent avocados are for women during menstruation. I’ll be the first to highlight that I’m no expert in this way of life. However, I can confidently convey that adopting a plant-based life is one of the most rewarding actions a person can take.
I trust the signs from my body, how my skin glows naturally and how amazing I feel more often than not – since making healthier changes.
It is imperative that we all look back to see the change, remember the reasons and step forward positively, knowing that your stride is in the direction most aligned to a healthier life.
Sometimes it is easy to forget that we need to take extra care of ourselves during our period.
This month I have craved salty foods and bought salty foods to feed my salty desires. However, it was wrong of me to react that way to something I’m expecting and know how to manage when it arrives.
Sometimes it is easy to forget that we need to take special care of ourselves during menstruation. For example, I bought a bag of chips with curry sauce, and the first few bites were delightful. However, my stomach began to hurt shortly after – salty foods during menstruation are self-destructive. I think because I had been going through a stressful time in my life, I turned to food and approved the purchase with the fact that ‘I’m on my period.’
Any food containing sugar or salt will exacerbate the pain you feel and lower your mood after bringing you up on a high for like 10 minutes. Please be mindful of your needs vs wants vs desire.
My needs: Something that will soothe the physical pain I’m feeling and lift my low mood. (Avocado and banana are great.)
My wants were chips, chips, a blueberry muffin and even more chips.
My desires, to have a pain free period where I’m fresh with vibrant energy and well-rested from my daily duties.
Remember, only you can make menstruation better, aim to fuel and soothe with healthy choices, as opposed to giving in to salt and sugar.
Last week was a challenging week, my laptop broke down, and I hadn’t backed up everything. I cried, cried and cried some more. But crying doesn’t solve an issue. Instead, it seeks to prolong it.
I sought help and was ignored by people who are there to help.
I turned to family and friends and found solace – I know a broken laptop is nothing to some people, but I have a degree to complete and indeed blog posts to create and share.
Week 6 involved a lot of walking, and that was good; I ran once, and for the most part, I wanted to get through the week and have some time for myself. However, it was the most stressful week I have had this month – being transparent, and this C25K was not at the forefront of my mind. However, I got up and went out and walked.
Life can bump through and knock you off your path and out of your lane. It can place an empty plastic bottle, broken glass or a deceitful person in your way and push you into a pit of darkness. However, I had to step up and climb out of this crap and continue.
Week 6 taught me that the only one I can depend upon is myself, first and foremost. Then trusted friends and family second. A training plan is challenging to remain consistent with, especially when the perils of life break down during your day. But, getting through week six has shown me that I can do this and grow to become a better version of the woman I am today.
‘Keep ya head up, even when the roads are hard, never give up.’ – Tupac Shakur
Week five was a week worth of walking; a combination of the high temperatures and stress levels on the increase in general areas of my life had me feeling like giving up on the training plan.
A mixture of the past cutting into the present, tempting me to revert to laziness.
I walked daily, six days out of seven, and each time I felt the benefit to my mental health. There were times I wanted to stay indoors, in bed and do nothing. It was interesting to see how much energy goes into feeding a negative mindset instead of the positives.
On another note, I realised my running tights feel a little looser than usual. Which on a typical day, I would’ve been feeling happy at the 2lb weight loss. However, I found it annoying as I kept having to stop and pull up my running tights.
I mean, where do I find suitable running gear? It fits great for a few months, then slides down my body as if I’ve lost two stones instead of 2 lbs.
I’m tired of being the one to step up and mend the cracks.
They formed because you keep on leaning on my mind. Taking pieces, slice by slice, like a greedy person.
Like anyone else, I need time to myself too.
I have days where I do nothing, and that is great for my mind you keep harvesting pieces from.
When I felt I needed you, you, my friend, vanished during my time of dark nights and blue days.
For the sake of my sanity, I will not cater to your selfish needs. When you need me, you cry, scream, and act as if ED209 is coming for your head. But, I forgot, our world, sorry, my life revolves around you.
No, I will not be the one you use.
No, I will not be the drain for your issues.
No, I will not answer a call to hear complaints and no positive action.
It is inevitable that for humans to progress in this life, we need to help one another. However, it will not come at the cost of any detrimental impact on my mental health.
Don’t be afraid to say, ‘no.’
Remember, you are a Queen and placing yourself first is perfectly fine.
Be confident and know that your mental health matters.
It’s time to start something new or to build on your existing framework for success for your health journey.
We have reached halfway through the year, and restrictions are slowly lifting; we are venturing outside and trying to get back to a sense of normalcy.
I hope to lose 10lbs this month and continue to benefit from taking B12 supplements. I will complete my @greatrun Couch to 5K training plan. I have enjoyed each session so far and will become a fluent runner by October this year.
I’m happy that the sun is shining and the weather is delightful—time to slip into summery attire and remain cool during my outdoor workouts.
If you fell short last month and did not meet all your goals – start again today! Forgive yourself and don’t hold onto any negative feelings. Remember, you have the power and authority to enhance your life by eating better and working out.
June is your month – own it, and don’t be afraid to try new things. Take time to taste fruits and vegetables that you’ve never tasted. Learn a new plant-based recipe and be sure to increase your fitness.
This week has been challenging, though it started well.
History came zapping through my phone and pinging on WhatsApp with a ‘Hey, Unique…’ the innocence of the opening-line opened up that tiny door in my heart. Then blasted through with a missile, forcing my eyes to focus on reality.
In short? There is no short. Shit happened back then, and what I thought was happening, I was told it wasn’t. This week I receive confirmation that what I thought it was, at the time, it was!
This event impacted my mental health adversely. I mean, someone gaslighting me and only now returning to put out the fire? After it has burnt through my core and promoted negative feelings about my entire existence.
This week I turned to chocolate biscuits, chips and curry sauce and extra chips.
I cannot explain why? I knew it was wrong but, I did it anyway.
Upon reflection, I should have talked it through with a trusted friend or wrote about it in my journal. My point is, it is normal to feel down from time to time; the critical thing is to make your next step positive.
Step in the name of respect for yourself and remember that emotional eating is detrimental to your health journey. Don’t allow negative people to pull up at your table.
Yesterday I had some downtime, where I played some music [Ice T – TEMS] and made this short video on Snapchat.
I usually avoid photos, videos and indeed meetings online – I have spent many years putting this down to ‘shyness’; however, I realised this weekend that it isn’t shyness that I’m feeling. I feel nervous about certain things. I mean, I have blue hair and wear red lipstick (my superpowers, lol.)
Society depicts a certain standard of beauty and burns the image into the minds of the masses whilst searing the nonsensical notion that we all can’t be beautiful in some way, shape or form.
We aren’t made to please a cookie-cutter standard of beauty! We can bring positive energy into our world and enhance it to become better today.
‘Hurt, people, hurt people!’
We all need to be kind and remember that true beauty starts from within. We do not need to conform to the opinion that we should look a certain way. (My body is my body)
I implore you all to love yourself first and be proud that you are here, right now. Please remember, EVERY HEARTBEAT COUNTS. Allow yours to beat towards a positive mindset.
This week I have been menstruating. I planned to go for a jog on Wednesday, but I never felt so good.
I have been feeling under the weather; my GP reckons it may be a seasonal bug. Symptoms should pass in 24-48 hours.
The good news is I finally have a new pair of trainers that fit perfectly, and this means I can now discard my old pair. One foot had a small hole, and the tread mainly had worn away, and the wet weather would go right through it. I’m not into shopping, and I never treat myself, as I infrequently have moments where I convince myself I’m not worthy of new things.
It all sounds strange? Yeah, you could say that, and I might have agreed, had it not been for the fact that I know myself and I know how self-deprecating I can be. Especially when it comes to doing what many find easy, ‘shopping!’
Week 4 reflections? Nothing to report, I’m afraid; I need to rest up and get some Pineapple Prescription into my body to heal myself. Get back to training and drop some more lbs.
I’m curvy; yes, I have curves. Some pinchable fat – it’s smooth in my hands.
Trust me, I’m warm in the winter, and well, I’m familiar with my shape, my size, my curves – the operative word being ‘MY.’
Hurt people wake up regularly, crawl the web regularly, troll those that don’t fit their vision of beauty and hurt them or at least try.
We all need to be a size 0 or something around a single digit in size. Well, I heard the ignorance, and I disengaged with all negative energy. I repeat, ‘my body is my body.’ I carry my weight and own my size.
When I run and my fat jiggles and wiggles around, it’s my fat, all mine.
Why do you concern yourself with the measurements of my body? It’s not as if you’re paying for the food I eat or motivating me to get up and work out. You’re not even leaving a kind word or two.
You seek to hurt people because you’re hurting.
I’m aware of my flaws, obvious imperfections and novice awareness of many aspects surrounding health and nutrition. However, I’m learning about food and what my body needs, losing weight, and the fitness my body enjoys.
Here I am, pinching my fat! Because it’s mine, and I can do just that.
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I have been swamped trying to sort out and balance various aspects of my life, including my diet, fitness and overall mental health and wellbeing. I mean, the past 18 months have been unprecedented and misrepresented.
However, I must pause for a moment to thank every one of my subscribers!
I value your constant support and the source of strength you deliver to me, both during my times of joy and sadness. I’m grateful to be a part of an online community that strives to uplift and empower one another to become healthier versions of ourselves.
During my quiet moments, I have some time to read other blogs and learn from their posts. I find it heart-warming that there’s so much support and appreciation for all on their health journeys. Trust me; it is beautiful to see, hear and be a part of this day and age.
I trained for 6/7 days with 4/7 days dedicated to the plan. I admit that it had taken me an age to push through and get dressed. I had many occasions where I would tell myself that ‘this plan is not for me, I can’t make it! I’m not a runner.’
However, I got up and got outside – oh, the joy I get from jogging.
I take pride in every slow step I take into becoming a fitter woman. I see people race right past me, and I smile – I’m happy to see them and equally happy I’m on the right pathway to improving my health and lifestyle.
On Sunday the 16th of May, I had completed session four, and during this session, my legs felt tired at times. But I persevered, and gee, I felt great. Upon returning home, I found that my FitBit friend was close to winning the Weekend Warrior challenge. Therefore, I started marching on the spot until I passed 10,000 steps.
I then had a nice hot shower and then napped for a few hours.
I recommend C25K training for everyone – week three has been the best week so far.
I should also highlight that this training has boosted my mental health to the point where I feel a positive mindset and value it even more after exercise.
Anxiety took over and I convinced myself that I couldn’t do this, who wants to see a fat woman running through the streets?
It had taken me 1 hr and 45 minutes to get up and get out and about! I was dressed and ready to go, but mentally my mind wasn’t ready to do this.
Eventually, I completed 1/3 session and avoided the rest by giving myself excuses to skip the final 2 sessions that week. During the session, I gradually broke out into a gentle jog and reverted to power-walking. I needed to feel comfortable and I knew it would take time.
After jogging for 30 minutes I returned home and I felt a mixture of emotions, the main one being relief! I was glad it was over – then negativity honed in and I never completed another session for the rest of that week.
What a wonderful week it has been, I vowed to complete 3 sessions and I’m happy to share with you that I have done just that.
On Monday it had taken me a good half an hour to get outside, as I felt guilty about only completing one session the week before. Today is now Saturday and I’m happy I’ve completed 3 sessions of workouts for around 30 minutes per session.
I feel great! And inspired to get out and go jogging next week.
I’m elated that I completed 3 sessions this week – I hadn’t thought I could do this but now I have, therefore I can.
C25K has positively boosted my mental health, I feel happier and my mind feels lighter.